I have a younger sibling who is going to be a sophomore in high school, and I just found out that she’s started smoking weed. I took part in consumption of the substance when I was her age, but I can’t let my little sister get involved. Am I being unreasonable?
Dear Stoner Bro,
Let’s start with some math. She’s going to be a sophomore in high school. That makes her 15. Meaning she was born in 1998. Damn. Girlfriend doesn’t remember Y2K but she she’s rolling blunts. I see how this is distressing. Kids these days are getting turnt up, documenting it on social media and reinforcing each other’s poor choices with a double tap of the finger. Have you seen high schoolers’ Instagrams? Nothing but belligerence and crop tops. A picture of your sister, her seven BFFs, and some not so subtle Natty Lights in the background will accumulate 145 likes within an hour. #LikeForLike. That’s actually a thing.
But how can you approach the infant and her drug habit? First, look back on a time not so long ago when you were in high school – hot boxing cars and smoking out of apples you bought at 7-11. You were living like a boss: cruising around, rapping along to Lil Wayne and Cudi, and munching on Taco Bell. Now, the thought of her doing the same is horrifying. Especially because in her case it’ll be Drake and 2 Chainz and she’ll be posting Vines of herself blowing smoke rings. Sorry for that visual. 1998. Still taking that in.
The most important point you want to get across is that you care about her and want her to stay safe. Try to tell her everything you wish you would’ve known when you were her age. Frame the conversation with the message “learn from my mistakes” rather than “make new friends and take up knitting because weed is a gateway drug.” Giving her tangible advice will be the best way to let her know that you are looking out for her best interests without being an uptight, hypocrite noob.
Remind her that what goes on the internet will be there forever and that you can in fact take screen shots of Snapchats. Enlighten her on the tragic time you went back for seconds on the pot brownies and let her know that is never the move no matter how hungry she may get. Maybe conclude with a cautionary tale of a friend’s run-in with the cops. Cops who had drug-sniffing dogs. And tasers.
She may be prepubescent but you shouldn’t treat her like a child. Going straight to your parents will alienate you and do more harm than simply talking to her like a peer. Keep up the communication, even when you’re back at school and feel free to troll her Facebook to ensure she’s not publicizing her shenanigans. Tell her to keep up her grades and make her promise that she will keep the edibles somewhere the pets can’t get to.
Cheers to the Youth,
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