Comments on: Ask Hillary: TNC Meat Market & Strapped for Cash http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash The Official Student Publication of Claremont McKenna College Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:14:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ross Boomer, Editor-in-Chief http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-4541 Ross Boomer, Editor-in-Chief Tue, 10 Feb 2009 01:14:32 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-4541 I love me some controversy :) I love me some controversy :)

]]> By: Hillary Tribbs http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-4540 Hillary Tribbs Tue, 10 Feb 2009 00:40:36 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-4540 I do not feel that I am being snide in any way; I am addressing an issue with a person who does not necessarily want to change their behavior or group of friends. If you enjoy your friends company and value that friendship there are ways to keep enjoying the lifestyle that you have chosen to live without completely altering your social circle. Your friends, or at least the good and observant ones, know a certain degree of your financial means based on the way that you choose to live your life. Someone's decision not to degrade the friendship by making a huge issue about money might be a personal choice and they don't want to injure their own pride any more than necessary. This is only one way to solve the problem, which is kind of the point of an advice column, so if you have opinions about how you would solve the problem feel free to leave them as a post, but don't degrade me or my opinion as I am respecting you and your point of view in return. I do not feel that I am being snide in any way; I am addressing an issue with a person who does not necessarily want to change their behavior or group of friends. If you enjoy your friends company and value that friendship there are ways to keep enjoying the lifestyle that you have chosen to live without completely altering your social circle. Your friends, or at least the good and observant ones, know a certain degree of your financial means based on the way that you choose to live your life. Someone’s decision not to degrade the friendship by making a huge issue about money might be a personal choice and they don’t want to injure their own pride any more than necessary.

This is only one way to solve the problem, which is kind of the point of an advice column, so if you have opinions about how you would solve the problem feel free to leave them as a post, but don’t degrade me or my opinion as I am respecting you and your point of view in return.

]]> By: simulacric_bro http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-4539 simulacric_bro Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:57:42 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-4539 Smack indeed. Hillary's snide comments aside, my point was not subtlety. I was trying to humorously show that anything but being open with your friends implicitly parses the word friend of all meaning. Take her suggestion, which boils down to avoiding the issue by getting a job or by being frugal (or some combination thereof). You're busting your ass behind your friends' backs in order to be with them. Hanging out with your friends is not some job that you have to work for. Her advice makes it sound like your friends are something that you need to earn, something that you need to save for. Ridiculous! Sure some people aren't "comfortable talking about money issues with their friends," but then they're either weak or have shitty "friends", and we need to talk about something else. Smack indeed. Hillary’s snide comments aside, my point was not subtlety. I was trying to humorously show that anything but being open with your friends implicitly parses the word friend of all meaning. Take her suggestion, which boils down to avoiding the issue by getting a job or by being frugal (or some combination thereof). You’re busting your ass behind your friends’ backs in order to be with them. Hanging out with your friends is not some job that you have to work for. Her advice makes it sound like your friends are something that you need to earn, something that you need to save for. Ridiculous!

Sure some people aren’t “comfortable talking about money issues with their friends,” but then they’re either weak or have shitty “friends”, and we need to talk about something else.

]]> By: simulacric_bro http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-46728 simulacric_bro Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:57:00 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-46728 Smack indeed. Hillary's snide comments aside, my point was not subtlety. I was trying to humorously show that anything but being open with your friends implicitly parses the word friend of all meaning. Take her suggestion, which boils down to avoiding the issue by getting a job or by being frugal (or some combination thereof). You're busting your ass behind your friends' backs in order to be with them. Hanging out with your friends is not some job that you have to work for. Her advice makes it sound like your friends are something that you need to earn, something that you need to save for. Ridiculous! Sure some people aren't "comfortable talking about money issues with their friends," but then they're either weak or have shitty "friends", and we need to talk about something else. Smack indeed. Hillary’s snide comments aside, my point was not subtlety. I was trying to humorously show that anything but being open with your friends implicitly parses the word friend of all meaning. Take her suggestion, which boils down to avoiding the issue by getting a job or by being frugal (or some combination thereof). You’re busting your ass behind your friends’ backs in order to be with them. Hanging out with your friends is not some job that you have to work for. Her advice makes it sound like your friends are something that you need to earn, something that you need to save for. Ridiculous!

Sure some people aren’t “comfortable talking about money issues with their friends,” but then they’re either weak or have shitty “friends”, and we need to talk about something else.

]]> By: Ross Boomer, Editor-in-Chief http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-4535 Ross Boomer, Editor-in-Chief Mon, 09 Feb 2009 19:02:59 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-4535 Ohhh smack Ohhh smack

]]> By: Ross Boomer, Editor-in-Chief http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-46727 Ross Boomer, Editor-in-Chief Mon, 09 Feb 2009 19:02:00 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-46727 Ohhh smack Ohhh smack

]]> By: Hillary http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-4534 Hillary Mon, 09 Feb 2009 18:28:22 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-4534 Dear simulacric_bro, I also appreciate your point of view, and I hope that not coming off like a tool works for you, but I'm not sure that your subtlety is at the level you think it is. I like the idea of telling the friends, but not everyone is comfortable talking about money issues with their friends. Hillary Dear simulacric_bro,

I also appreciate your point of view, and I hope that not coming off like a tool works for you, but I’m not sure that your subtlety is at the level you think it is. I like the idea of telling the friends, but not everyone is comfortable talking about money issues with their friends.

Hillary

]]> By: Hillary http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-46726 Hillary Mon, 09 Feb 2009 18:28:00 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-46726 Dear simulacric_bro, I also appreciate your point of view, and I hope that not coming off like a tool works for you, but I'm not sure that your subtlety is at the level you think it is. I like the idea of telling the friends, but not everyone is comfortable talking about money issues with their friends. Hillary Dear simulacric_bro,

I also appreciate your point of view, and I hope that not coming off like a tool works for you, but I’m not sure that your subtlety is at the level you think it is. I like the idea of telling the friends, but not everyone is comfortable talking about money issues with their friends.

Hillary

]]> By: Hillary http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-4533 Hillary Mon, 09 Feb 2009 18:22:04 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-4533 Dear man, I appreciate your response, but the main reason that I didn't address the male side of the issue is that first, I am a girl and I don't know for sure the male side of it, but also I am not writing this column alone. Alex Mitchell is also writing for part of this and he is addressing the male aspect of issues. I do not pretend to know what is going on in guys heads around here, why don't you enlighten us? Since this was a question from a girl's point of view, I responded, and you're free to comment on what you think about it. I'd be curious to hear what you have to say about the issue. So do you think that girls are only looking for hook ups? Have you had bad experiences that lead you to believe that we are less than the girlfriend types? I do feel that a lot of CMC is like a meat market, but that's not always a bad thing. It's fun to flirt and go out with your friends and have a reason to dress up and look hot. Even in that respect I do think that there is a bias against relationships here, and the concept of "dating" like adults does not apply. It's tough to see where some people draw the line between hooking up and dating because in my opinion girls aren't always treated with the utmost respect. Hillary Dear man,

I appreciate your response, but the main reason that I didn’t address the male side of the issue is that first, I am a girl and I don’t know for sure the male side of it, but also I am not writing this column alone. Alex Mitchell is also writing for part of this and he is addressing the male aspect of issues. I do not pretend to know what is going on in guys heads around here, why don’t you enlighten us? Since this was a question from a girl’s point of view, I responded, and you’re free to comment on what you think about it. I’d be curious to hear what you have to say about the issue. So do you think that girls are only looking for hook ups? Have you had bad experiences that lead you to believe that we are less than the girlfriend types?

I do feel that a lot of CMC is like a meat market, but that’s not always a bad thing. It’s fun to flirt and go out with your friends and have a reason to dress up and look hot. Even in that respect I do think that there is a bias against relationships here, and the concept of “dating” like adults does not apply. It’s tough to see where some people draw the line between hooking up and dating because in my opinion girls aren’t always treated with the utmost respect.

Hillary

]]> By: Hillary http://cmcforum.com/life/02082009-ask-hillary-tnc-meat-market-strapped-for-cash#comment-46725 Hillary Mon, 09 Feb 2009 18:22:00 +0000 http://thecmcforum.com/?p=1450#comment-46725 Dear man, I appreciate your response, but the main reason that I didn't address the male side of the issue is that first, I am a girl and I don't know for sure the male side of it, but also I am not writing this column alone. Alex Mitchell is also writing for part of this and he is addressing the male aspect of issues. I do not pretend to know what is going on in guys heads around here, why don't you enlighten us? Since this was a question from a girl's point of view, I responded, and you're free to comment on what you think about it. I'd be curious to hear what you have to say about the issue. So do you think that girls are only looking for hook ups? Have you had bad experiences that lead you to believe that we are less than the girlfriend types? I do feel that a lot of CMC is like a meat market, but that's not always a bad thing. It's fun to flirt and go out with your friends and have a reason to dress up and look hot. Even in that respect I do think that there is a bias against relationships here, and the concept of "dating" like adults does not apply. It's tough to see where some people draw the line between hooking up and dating because in my opinion girls aren't always treated with the utmost respect. Hillary Dear man,

I appreciate your response, but the main reason that I didn’t address the male side of the issue is that first, I am a girl and I don’t know for sure the male side of it, but also I am not writing this column alone. Alex Mitchell is also writing for part of this and he is addressing the male aspect of issues. I do not pretend to know what is going on in guys heads around here, why don’t you enlighten us? Since this was a question from a girl’s point of view, I responded, and you’re free to comment on what you think about it. I’d be curious to hear what you have to say about the issue. So do you think that girls are only looking for hook ups? Have you had bad experiences that lead you to believe that we are less than the girlfriend types?

I do feel that a lot of CMC is like a meat market, but that’s not always a bad thing. It’s fun to flirt and go out with your friends and have a reason to dress up and look hot. Even in that respect I do think that there is a bias against relationships here, and the concept of “dating” like adults does not apply. It’s tough to see where some people draw the line between hooking up and dating because in my opinion girls aren’t always treated with the utmost respect.

Hillary

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